Boys Get Raped Too

 Boys Get Raped Too  🔞 

I was at the neighbour's house to play football and hide and seek with Ifunanya, Steven and my younger sister when the weird incident occured. 

Doris, my neighbour's eldest daughter who was 16years (6years older than me) sent the other kids to buy candy while she kindly asked me to help pick up a book in her room. Before I could pick the book, she followed me into the room and shut the door. 

I was startled immediately I saw the girl standing unclad behind me with the door locked. I must confess that I liked Doris but it was just an innocent crush. She was very pretty but I NEVER imagined doing anything nasty with her (yes I was that innocent). 

I was shocked because I had never seen a naked grown-up girl before, not even on TV.  

Growing up, the NTA and other free to air television stations aired entertaining and informative contents devoid of amorality. Even cable channels were decent enough to cut off the explicit scenes in Western movies. 

Voltron, Power Rangers, Tales by Moon Light, Super Story, Sesame Street, Cabrury Breakfast Show, Papa Ajasko, Cockerel at Dawn, Masquerade etc were the Vogue amongst many Nigerian homes then. If you can relate to the aforementioned, you'll agree with me that those shows doesn't require adult supervision. My parent also did justice by renting or buying PG 13 rated home videos (those days Nollywood never spoil and na video cassette days - VCD was just creeping into the scene). 

I begged her to let me go but she refused. 

"I love you and I want us to do it small, just once.." she told me. 

"Please Doris I can't. I like you too but this is wrong. We'll go to hell fire and my mom would kill me. please.. please.." I pleaded with her.

"Hahahaha forget that thing. You don't know how sweet this thing is. Do you mean you've not done it before?" she asked. 

"No! I'm scared. Please don't..." I said trying to convince her.

"Stop wasting my time.." she interjected "If you refuse, I will tell your mom that you touched my private part and she will literally kill you" she threatened.

I started sweating profusely and begging but Doris nudged me to her bed and starting touching and kissing me. As she was about to drag off my knicker, her mom drove into the house, she quickly opened the door and we hurriedly fled from the room into the living room and pretended to be watching the television. 

I ran out of the house as soon as the coast was clear terrified and disturbed. To this day that scene still haunt me. It's been a decade plus now, but I have never been able to sum up the courage to tell any of my parents, not even my mother (who was my confidante). 

For weeks I hid in my cucoon and waited for the worst. Yeah the WORST! 

As I was meant to believe then, touching or kissing could get a girl pregnant and I lived with the fear that Doris was probably carrying my child (even though we didn't do the do) 🤣

I still find it awkward to pronounce the words; "Penis or Vagina" because it was a taboo in my household. I got to learn from my peers at school that my "Peepee" is called Penis and it's not only use for urinating.... 😱

Perhaps due to our Christian conviction, sex education was never truly addressed in my home. We were only taught *DOs and DON'Ts with emphasis on the consequences involved and the  punitive punishments and embarrassments that will follow (IDK but my mom did a perfect job by raising my only kid sister though).

My neighbour's daughter and I never talked again. I hated her with disdain and would have poisoned or strangled her if I had the chance.  Trying to ripped off my masculinity was like sacrilege to me. My ego and manhood was bruised (No reason am. E for say she try am again i for kill her 🔫) 

Years later Doris apologized to me and I forgave her. She's grown into a very fine woman now and is married with two kids. 

The sad reality is; if the deviant horny girl had succeeded in defiling me, it would have continued without my parents ever noticing because she might have continued threatening and coercing me to get her way.  😭

 

If I had told any of my parent about what occurred between I and Doris, I would have been beaten, punished and grounded for disobeying their orders of leaving our house to play elsewhere and for going into another person's bedroom and most importantly, they might have never believed my side of the story. They would blame me for picking up a deviant and ungodly attitude (I won't blame them though). 

The society might also treat my case with a kid glove because of the stereotypes about men and masculinity. This narrative must change.

I got away physically unharmed but how many kids do? 

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The Herculean Task before us is;  👇

Don't just tell your kids the moral implications of their actions and inactions. Tell them the health and mental implications too. If you don't, the internet, their peers and popstars would do and they will do it in a negative manner with free practicals and illustrations. 

Boys are not immune to molestations. Protect them too, tell them the way it is (not in a perversive manner of course). 

Encourage them to speak up when they are abused or when someone try to. 

Don't be judgmental too. Listen 🦻

*The rape victim is never at fault! 

Inform your children, protect them. 📢

 Inform them of; 

- Sex Education & Personal Hygiene

- Sexual Molestation (the act, how to prevent it and to speak up)

- Drug Abuse 

- Peer Pressure 

- Internet (the pros and cons) 

- Mental Health etc 

DON'T HIDE OR CONDONE ANY RAPE CASE. REPORT IT TO THE NECESSARY AUTHORITIES. 

Remember, the boy child needs protection too. Boys get raped too. 

✒ Samuel Lyricool Thomas Jr. 

 

Additional info:  in the late 1990s and early 2000s Home Videos on video cassettes and VCDs were rented out. They were called "Video Clubs" 

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